I am so sorry for your loss. When my stepsister died, she was brain dead. I was a nurse, knew what that meant, but I truly believe that they can hear us and know we were there.
I've never lost a spouse, but have lost several family members I was very close to, including my mom who was my best friend.
Does the pain get better? Yes, but it takes a while. It's like those gut-wrenching feelings that seem to take your breath away get further and further apart.
I'd always said "if my mom dies, let me go too because I can't live without her". I went through all the stages of grief, found out my dad and I would be at different stages, different times and that was hard.
However, I did keep going and she's been gone 20 years. I am 50..the same age she was when she died.
Please know that we are here for you, and that even though not everyone will post here? Many, many will read and there are a lot of prayers and comforting thoughts coming to you and your family.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy