hi Bonnielass and welcome to Sober Recovery.
At the top of the Friends and Families of Alcoholics board, you'll see "Stickies," which give excellent information.
Check out this one, the Al Anon Self Test:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...html#post17267
There's a lot of help here for all of us! That's why so many of us keep coming back.