I'm glad you posted, Threshold.
I did have a spiritual awakening, but not through AA. I was in very bad shape physically and emotionally when I stopped drinking, and I felt very hopeless, alone and lost. I knew instinctively that I had to find a purpose for getting up each day and moving forward. I began searching for books to help me find my way, and my spiritual awakening came as a result of reading "The Seat of the Soul" by Gary Zukav.
Going through a divorce, especially after a long marriage has to be very hard. Is there some way that you can move back to your community, pets and friends? It seems like that would be helpful at this time.
The other thing that was life-changing for me in early recovery was volunteer work. I set out, hoping that I could offer something to an organization, and was surprised to find that I received far more than I could give.