I always think it's best to be honest Threshold
Sobriety did not solve all my problems - it solved a lot of them and I was undeniably better off and better equipped to deal with everything sober - but I still had some pretty big nasty life things to deal with in my first year.
Divorce is a traumatic event - for anyone, alcoholic or not. Being removed form community friends pets etc has to hurt too. You bf sounds like another problematic issue as well.
Maybe you need to cut yourself some slack here Threshold?
You're obviously dealing with a lot - and yet you still find time to post here to help others, and to work on yourself and your recovery - and you're still sober.
I think that's recovery right there... but I really hope things will get a little brighter for you soon - til then maybe lean on us a little?
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