Originally Posted by
Mark75 
Early recovery was much harder on our relationship than when I was active.
My husband didn't want to admit I was an addict and he sure wasn't going to do anything like attend Al-anon. He decided I was too crazy to live with and decided to cash in 25 yrs of marriage rather than weather the ups and downs of early recovery.
Honesty is a real key in BOTH partners. Addiction was a third party in our relationship, not JUST my issue, but our issue. I'm glad I have a program, he's out there on his own.
I wish like anything I could mend our relationship, but I can't, but I CAN work on me.
If you can handle the "meanwhile" with some patience and humor, and keep working your own program, you might end up with an even better marriage a little ways down the line.