people who mean to kill themselves do it, they don't chat about it. this has been my experience. the threat of death as a means of control is not someone who is suicidal. If your person discusses methods of suicide, starts talking in coded language, starts having what I call 'final' conversations then sure thats a means to have some genuine concern. The thing about suicide is its an action not a state of mind, and someone who wants to die, will make that happen regardless of intervention because their unwell rationale has made a choice. It is never your fault, never. Crying wolf is a catch 22, my ex-partner cried wolf on suicide threats for a decade.... and then one day he did. No attempts, just one go and he died. I don't hold myself responsible for his action, but it is a tragedy for his family and our sons. I hope you find some resolution around this
