To clear everything up with my husband, He was a very abusive alcoholic, that would drink a bottle of rum a night (we both did). It would escalate into something horrible, almost every time. He has done his time for that, and now he is completely sober and wont touch a drop. He has changed dramatically. The only time he was like that was during his terrible benders. We have worked long and hard on everything and we have almost been together 10 years in Feb. and I am happy to report, he is the person he was before, not the monster he was when he was drinking.