WTBH, I didn't phrase my response as well as I could have and I wasn't pointing fingers. A better way to say it is when I have something like:
I won't be answering the phone if it is her again but for some reason this is sticking with me and really really bothering me and I'm not sure why...
it's usually because I have some unresolved piece of emotional baggage I am carrying around and its a reminder that I need to do some work on myself to clear it up.
I agree with you that going no contact is a good idea.
Your friend,