Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
loss is loss whether they walk away under their own power or get wheeled off on a gurney....and it is very natural to notice that absence in our lives, especially when we didn't get a vote.
This is how I am feeling today, too--my RAF is moving out of my life and I didn't get a vote. He's about to legally become my former coworker, altho I have not actually worked with him since June. His alcoholism and his behavior cost me a long-time ally at my workplace. And possibly a close friend as well, tho the jury is still out as to whether we'll stay in touch. So I'm mad at him for what he's done to our 15-year relationship. Especially now, since his recovery seems to be going well. If he hadn't screwed up so badly, he would have been allowed back to work at our company and things could go back to the way they were, only with him sober and better. Of course I know that's not happening and most days I am reconciled to that and to both of us moving on. But some days I just really miss him.
So hugs and strength to everyone who's feeling some sort of loss today.