breec,
How important is any of those things in the scheme of things. Is the earth going to end because the dog made a mess, or the books didn't get returned. You are hard on yourself and he knows what buttons to push. Give yourself a break and realize that everything is ok. You are ok. You haven't done anything earth shattering or bad. When you get home, you will take care of what needs to be done there. He didn't need to call you at work to tell you about something that you couldn't do anything about. That was manipulative. It's a game. It has nothing to do with the dog or the books. It has to do with controlling you.
Ask yourself "How Important is It?" Then say "Let go and Let God." Then go home and hear "Quack Quack Quack." Don't let this bring you down. You didn't do anything wrong. Hugs, Magic