Originally Posted by
seekinganswrs 
My plan is to stay separated and if he can go 1 year (minimum) and do the counseling or whatever he feels he needs then I will not file for divorce, but if he can't then, I am setting my limit at one year clean. Thanks for the support!
I think everyone should stipulate one year clean when considering whether or not to divorce the AH/AW and move on.
Most don't make it to the one-year mark in my personal experience. It takes dedication and a LOT of hard work to maintain clean time and recovery.