Thanks for this post, the karma quote just made my fridge's bulletin board.
I am struggling with this today also. I just found out that my exAH is getting married again tomorrow (we have been separated a little over a year and divorced less than 10 months).
I have been working hard on my own healing. I am no where near ready for new friendships, never mind a relationship. It gets hard sometimes to not feel like the victim or the broken one. I am struggling remembering how I felt about this time in my relationship with my loved one who struggles with alcohol, and am missing both of us, and what could have been.
Luckily I have a lot of good in my life too, when I remember that and focus on it the rest goes a lot easier.
I am so grateful to those that post and share here.