Frannie-
Try to remember when she calls from jail that it is her disease not her calling. Step back from her situation you do not have to go through it with her. My mom thjinks everytime something happens to one of her kids that it happens to her too but, that is not the truth Frannie it is not happening to you it is happening to her.
Believe me Judges, DA's, probation officers all know about co-dependence I believe that often people get stiffer sentences when these officals see that addicts/alcoholics have too much support and clearly not taking responsibility for themselves in order to give the family time to seek help. A mothers tears often anger the judge.....