Hi and welcome Scarletrose.
No one can tell you that you are an alcoholic, that is a decision that you have to make. However, many things that you said in your post stick out to me and are suggestive of a progressive problem with alcohol. Alcoholism is a progressive disease. You describe many things that have NOT happened to you...YET. Why not try giving up alcohol for a period of time and see what things in your life change.
Keep posting and reading - there is lots of support here.