Hi William, and welcome to SR! I am sorry for the circumstances that brought you here, but am glad you found us.
I have several suggestions for you. Read the "sticky" topics at the top of this forum and educate yourself on alcoholism. It is a family disease.
Check into local Alanon meetings for face-to-face support among those who understand. If your wife would be willing to go also, that would be an added bonus.
Get a book called "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. You can get used copies pretty cheap on Amazon.
You are seeing how alcoholism is progressive, and how much it has impacted the family members surrounding your FIL.
Please continue to post, ask questions, vent, whatever you need to do!
Again, welcome, and sending you hugs of support!
