Webber, please continue to post and read the stickies at the beginning of the forum. The knowledge and wisdom on these threads will help you understand what the disease of alcoholism really is.
She needs to concentrate on her recovery. If you want her to succeed it would be best for you to remove yourself from this on and off again relationship. You cannot help her. She has to do this for herself. Love cannot fix this. If it could, none of us would be here.
Knowing what I know now I would never be involved with an alcoholic. Keep reading. You are not alone, we are here. Take care of YOU