I agree, you need to get out of the dysfunctional environment you are in right now. And ACA and Al-anon meetings will be your path to a happy life instead of one filled with pain.
When we are ACA's, we are brought up with no idea of what normal is and what is tolerable or intolerable behavior. We have no life skills, and living in chaos and in a crisis feels normal to us.
Welcome, and I'm sorry you grew up with the craziness of addiction, too.