a friend in a similar situation to all of us told me that she had a hard time accepting the fact that her AH would hurt the kids just to hurt her.
But she said it very matter-of-factly. And it's been true for her kids and it's true for mine. I don't know if my xAH is trying to get at me, but he is willing to hurt my kids to indulge his selfish need to vent his grown-up feelings to my little kids. It tears me up.
I'm sorry. I think you handled it great.