Originally Posted by StarCat

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Logic does not work with addicts.
Sometimes they will break up because they realize the difficulty they're putting those around them through. Sometimes they do it to prove to themselves that they had the power in the relationship. Sometimes they do it because they don't want anyone to hold them accountable for their actions. Sometimes they do it to rekindle a relationship with a former drinking partner. Sometimes they do it because they feel insecure in the relationship, or next to the person they're in the relationship with. Sometimes they do it because the chase is more interesting than the relationship. Sometimes they do it because it's not exactly the way they imagined it. Sometimes they do it expecting the other person to come chasing after them, begging for another chance, so they can stroke their ego.

And sometimes they do it for no reason at all.

This is not a reflection on you.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
I'm glad you found us. You're not alone.