Hi DogDays,
Don't worry about whether you are an alcoholic or not. This is the important part:
Originally Posted by
DogDays 
Drinking is negatively impacting my life in every facet. Professionally, in relationships, financially, and physically.
Trust me, you don't need to be 'an alcoholic' to have problems with alcohol that need fixing.
Good for you for realising all of this, and taking action before things get worse (which they always do when alcohol is involved - never better).
I agree with everything Sherman says and have nothing else to add - my drinking was the exact opposite of yours - solo and terribly 'civilised' LOL :-) Ahem, right.
Just one thing: although I cringed (big time) about this beforehand, I found it super-helpful to see a doctor. I was referred to a guy who specialises in addictions and it has been great and very very helpful and supportive, seriously. If this isn't an option for you, a GP is a good start too.
Good luck to you and you are absolutely right to take action now.
BB