Originally Posted by
CagedBird 
He's done, or I'm gone.
I CAN NOT do this anymore.
He's obviously nowhere near "done", and IMO, threatening him (with the possibility of leaving him) into "being done" isn't going to have a positive effect.
Remember: you can't control his drinking nor can you cure it.
I'm glad you've hit *your* bottom and that you're making plans to leave. Laurie is right: you can demand supervised visitation until he has completed treatment and has proven himself capable of caring for your child. In my custody order, exAH was ordered not to consumme alcohol in the 24 hours prior to visitation. Obviously, the onus was on me to prove that he was drunk when I dropped her off, but he made it easy on me by making radical demands for visitation and then disappearing when I cut him off.
It will be ok. One step at a time. First off, make SAFE plans to leave. Talk to several lawyers about custody and divorce.
Keep posting! SR is always open.