Trust takes a long time to rebuild. I had an epiphany the other day when I realized I don't trust my RAH yet...and he's almost 10 months sober. And yes, he does not want to be reminded of his failings so many things have gone unsaid. And amazingly, the apologies I did get didn't really make the emotional scars go away, either.
What helps is being able to focus on one day at a time. Stay away when he's grumpy and irritable, and enjoy the times when he is fun to be around. I practice forgiveness and compassion every day - although some days I am way better at it than others.
Give it time - he's still a recovery newbie and your feelings are completely normal. That said, I have found living apart to be the best cure to all our ills. For now - I need that peace and so do my kids.