But we told our mother the last time she was in the hospital here that it was either go to an inpatient rehab, or we were done. She made her choice, and I feel like we should stick to what we said. Even without drinking, she is not right. And I just cannot handle it anymore. I just don't know what to do anymore.
If you can stick to this boundary, (inpatient or no contact), that could help to calm your life and that of your children.
It does sound as if your mother has quite a few more issues than drinking and for everyones sake you must get a rest from her.
There is nothing you can do or say to make her behave or stop drinking, you can only stop listening.
I hope you can find some respite from the chaos, and perhaps look into a support group for yourself and your children. I have found ACOA a great help.
I am an adult child of an alcoholic and in recovery from alcohol.
Beth
I am deeply sorry for the loss of your grandmother.
:ghug3