I'm sorry your wife wishes you were drinking again. Keep strong and don't let her comments encourage you off the better path you have chosen to travel. She has been hurt a lot in the past and she's got a lot to work through.
Each person must do their own part in recovering from alcoholism. What you can do is work the best program for yourself that you can. Don't worry so much about your wife as she must work her own program--you can't make her. She couldn't make you quit drinking, you can't make her work her program. We can only do our own individual part. Maybe in time with all the changes you make she will respond to those changes and change herself. Time will tell. Just focus on your part and if she joins you then all is well, but if she chooses not to do her part, at least you are doing yours. She will probably take anything you do early in recovery with a grain of salt anyway. She must have time to learn to trust you again. Keep on keeping on. The trust will grow over time.