After reading your post I have a couple of things to say;
1. You might really want to join the New Comers Section on this site. It is for the alcoholics and you might learn more about yourself over there.
This side might work for you too, who knows. On this side, we are the ones who have lived/survived living with alcoholics and sometimes we just dont understand why alcoholics drink, we may understand the pain your wife is feeling. We may understand what her so called "discussions" are all about.
Maybe your wife needs to log into this site and share with us what her "discussions"
are... And maybe if you talk to other alcoholics that might you more.
Each and everyone of us, must take the steps. You have 12 and so do we.
Marriage is one thing, but married to an alcoholic is another thing.
But you cant help her, if you cant help yourself first, and that rule applies to her
also..(hope you understand what Im trying to say)
Worrying about her, makes you stop worrying about yourself & your sobriety!!
That must come first...
Worry & Love in a marriage is kind of stickey anyways, let alone with being married
to an alcoholic.
I have never met a family, husband, or wife, that has shouted "WOOHOO, My Spouse is an alcoholic and we are in love and life is great"
Congrats! On your 21 days but dont blame her if you drink, unless she hog ties you down
and pours it down your thoart..It's your sobriety, not hers..
Congrats! On marriage counseling too! That is awesome! Hopefully your counselor
is educated in alcoholism.
Congrats! On taking the steps to finding a better life!! The Best Is Yet To Come!!!