Tuff,
A few weeks ago, I had an incident with my exabf, I shared it here on this forum. I, as always, rec'd support...yet, I needed more...so, I trotted my butt off to a meeting. I didn't share, I listened, I absorbed and when the meeting was over, I was at peace. I hadn't been to a meeting in over a year, the very best thing about the whole experiennce was that I was immediately welcomed and I know that I always will be.