Could my wife want me to go back to drinking?
Hi All . . . I'm new to here. Thanks in advance for reading. Married 19 years. Wife started in about my drinking last fall (Oct/Nov 2010). I slowed down a lot in the following months. She nagged about AA, therapy, me getting help. We started MC. I began AA 3 weeks ago (tomorrow is 21 days) and it's been a huge help. I would have definitely been very drunk a number of times this weekend without it.
In the meantime, she keeps on raising 'discussions' with me. The other morning (from 2am - 3.30am) she accused me of being a misogimist (sp?) and disrespecting all women. This, objectively, is so completely untrue about me and I have lots to prove otherwise. There just seems to be a crisis of the hour that I feel is testing and testing me. She was the main reason I stopped drinking and she is the main reason I will RESUME drinking.
I wonder if she has checked out of the marriage and now that I'm doing what she asked, and I AM doing much better, if this is just complicating things for her.
Any thoughts??? Am I losing my mind (yet again)??? THanks - Stu