Jackthedog, I'm with you 100%. If there wasn't a kid involved I'd say leave it alone - I don't think a bit of pot is a big deal. The alcohol is a huge deal. I'd do anything I could to get as much control as I could when it comes with leaving a kid with an alcoholic. You put your boy first. Thank God he's 14 and old enough to make a phone call or when to leave that house if his father gets out of control.