What do you do when all of your efforts have failed?
I don’t you all of those efforts as failing unless of course you are no longer willing to keep trying.
We don’t get better overnight; we don’t understand and accept the hard things in life over night or after a few sessions with a therapist or a meeting or two or after reading a few chapters in a book.
It’s always one foot in front of the other, one step at a time, often a few steps back then a few steps forward. As long as we keep trying, progress will come.