Originally Posted by
Threshold 
Yes, this forum is VERY civil compared to most I belong to, and considering the importance of the subject matter...pretty impressive I think!
Many times when I feel my hackles rise over a post, I realize that I am not really "listening" to what the poster is saying, often I am just hearing MY response to what I think they might be saying, or what I fear they might be saying. Many times, when I go back and reread a post, it isn't really saying what I let myself get upset over. I learn alot about myself by seeing what I react to, what am I afraid of.
That's SO true! I completely agree, the times I have gotten my feathers rustled it's only because I've heard what I wanted to hear and taken offense at it, and not taken the time to really read what the poster is saying and think about how they are feeling.
Very insightful, thank you for sharing.