Thanks for posting this question and for all the great responses. I have been chasing this in my mind for the last couple of days and needed the reminder that I was the 'new' girl for a while, my XABF refers to every single woman in his past in the most horrid terms, he is still drinking heavily every day, he is a parasite looking for a new host, my friends and family are talking to me again (now that he is gone), and I am better off right now than I have been since I met him.
I really needed to hear it again as I was starting to fall into the trap of my own mind.