Hi MB!
1st of, congrats on your 4 1/2 days!
What you say is completely true. We are in a situation such where we need time for ourselves and need to help ourselves 1st. Only then can we proceed to help others.
And yes, there will be a lot of choosing between you and them, but if you look at the bigger picture, isn't it for the best? Some friends will understand what you're going through, others won't. Those who don't, don't let them take your determination away ok? You can do it! After all, SR is always here if you just want to let it all out.
I'm happy you chose to write it all here. And for that, I thank you.