Originally Posted by
fourmaggie 
sounds like the mother has NO CLUE on what to do and what to suggest...she too needs AL ANON...
My mother is mentally ill (borderline personality disorder & severe depression). She was very abusive to me as a kid & her attitude toward me about AH's behavior isn't a shock. I am more annoyed w myself for letting her words impact me to the point that I didn't call the police. She is who she is. When I expect her to be different, I just wind up disappointed. Very similar to the dynamic w AH. My AH is my mother (w added drinking) & it's no accuser I married someone just like her