Originally Posted by
nicam 
Being involved with an addict makes your self esteem tank and the fear of them being happy and functional with someone else is rooted in that, IMO.
I agree..
I also think because I had NO self esteem, I ended up XABF. I subconsciously knew he was going to reinforce the opinion I had of myself.
Its a vicious circle.
Maybe its easier for me because I know the man is still very active in his addiction and the GF is even worse. This makes it easier to let go.
But we all deserve to be free, and move on. My life without toxic people (or limiting contact with toxic people as much as possible) is much more peaceful.
All the best.