Hi lbern
I have to say I had my hands full dealing with me when I got sober, let alone anyone else.
I know he's your friend and you care about him, but if he knows about the steps he'll know that Step 12 is step 12 for a reason - it's at the end, after you've done all the other steps, and are ready to help others.
Don't get lost in you friends troubles...I've been in relationships where the two of us floundered because I wasn't yet in a position to help...we ended up just sharing addictions.
It's not selfish to put your recovery first. Your responsibility is to yourself.
Your friend obviously knows where to get help, if he wants it.
D