I don't want to watch yet another woman come on this board, get great guidance and truth, then blow it all off and ruin her life further. It's getting old.
Ouch.
Anybody coming to this Site is seeking guidance, members' experiences, strength, opportunity to vent, learn, grow, etc. but it is all influenced by where they are in their experience, head and heart at the time. If it was as easy as "that's good advice, I'll do that", there would be no need for this Site. In the beginning, and when there's love involved, there is a great deal of hope and denial to overcome.
As for it getting old, I suspect similar stories were told when this Site was new and will be told 10 years from now. It is not old for the newcomer.