I started healing when I stopped listening to what was told and I went by behavior that I saw with my own eyes.
I suppressed that for so long that it took me awhile to really come to terms with it.
I lived with a binge drinker for a number of years. It was not daily. I finally had to realize though that when he did drink the outcome was unpredictable and it scared me. That impacted me and I had a right to have feelings about that, and when I was ready to act on that.