Originally Posted by
AutumnBeauty 
I'm suspect the military does offer a program for alcoholism. I'll ask him about it. I suspect he wouldn't be willing to go though - he is convinced he doesn't have a problem and can just quit. Also, I bet it would reflect poorly on his military record.
Just so you know. What will negatively effect his record is an alcohol related "event". A fight, DUI, public intox, etc. Stepping up and admitting a problem is no longer a black mark. There are several programs. One is called Military One Source. It is completely confidential, and costs him no money. But once his commander starts directing him to go, things will not be so nice.
The chaplins are good places to start. NOT mental health. No one needs the mental health profession more than the mental health professionals.
Trust me on this one. I've been in the military for 22 years.
But you should give serious consideration to letting this one go, and start looking for another one. there are lots of well adjusted, non alcoholic, non addict men out there. Really.