If I had any clue my AH was an alcoholic, or going to be, I would not have married him. I would have at the very least postponed any wedding until there was a significant period of sobriety.
He seems to be twisting in the wind and putting his drinking back onto you. Drinking too much is a problem, whether you point it out or not. It appears his drinking has caused other problems in his life other than his relationship with you.
I, too, would count beer and empties. It's not healthy. Find an Alanon group and see the help they can provide you. Read these boards. There are lots here with lots of experience, just like yours, that you can draw on for support.