More than anything else, I try to focus on the positive impact sobriety has on my life, rather than constantly beating myself up over the negative impact that alcohol had. Yeah, I remember detoxing (that was f'ing horrible) and all the awful things I did or said; but using those as a deterrent is just another way of kicking myself and making myself feel bad, which is half the reason I started drinking in the first place. Cyclical thinking like that won't work for me. On the other hand, focusing on how much better sober life is -- the thought of losing that (an absolute certainty if I pick up even one drink) is what works for me today.
--Fenris.