Yes, I agree, but yes this is the real issue, he has a problem with alcohol and has been smoking pot he told me just a year or so ago, that he has always.......and before he and I decided he should move out there were three 16oz. containers of marijuana ready to smoke in our garage, which he lied to me about.
Thank you for your suggestions, sorry if I seem defensive, I am still angry and numb at the same time.