Welcome to SR, womaninprogress. You've come to the right place to figure things out and I hope you find the answers you're looking for. For the most part, I've found that anger isn't very useful in recovery -- for a lot of alcoholics (myself included), resentment and anger is the internal poison that keeps leading us to the external one. But anger doesn't just disappear all by itself, so the first thing I would suggest to you is to find a somewhat healthy way to release it, maybe by writing down your resentments in a journal, or sharing them here, or finding an inanimate object to beat the **** out of (my favorite is taking an axe to an old dead oak tree in my backyard).
--Fenris.