FreeingMyself, don't beat yourself up for your own timetable. I have been there recently myself. Everyone around me saw his outrageous behavior and asked me why I still gave him the time of day. No one has been in the relationship except the two of you. I found myself trying to convince people of the good person I saw deep within him, the secrets he confided in his sober moments to only me, not even to his ex-wife or daughter, and the intimate moments our souls connected. It was only when I couldn't hurt any more that I had to surrender, and I have always been a sore loser. I so wanted the storybook ending, but the pain became too great. Be gentle with yourself; only you know when the time is right and you can say with confidence you are ready to turn the corner..
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