kittykitty

First of all, congratulations on being the first alcoholic I have ever exchanged with who's addiction has never affected their life. You are very lucky.

Second, there is no "normal" for an addict, in my experience. There are certain things that are 'regular' in some of the behavior, such as lying, denial, and certain types of abuse on others, but none of the things that addicts do would constitute me using the term "normal".

I am unclear what kind of advice you are looking for. Try not to worry so much about what he is doing, and focus on what you need to do to be happy in your life. Are the ups and downs something you want to live with?