Lady M- I
often hear how I don't laugh at his jokes anymore, how I'm not loving enough, not affectionate enough - How I "used to be so what happened?"
I've heard the same things-- and I feel in those moments like "wait, I DO have a sense of humor, I DO feel love and AM affectionate" but I guess what's different is that I'm not offering those things to AH in the same way I did for so long... And that's bothersome to him-- not an indication that I am not in possession of those traits-- I just don't express them in the same way I did which is the way he still wants...
I guess in that sense he and I are a lot alike... we both wish the other would be something else... Sadly he still hopes I'll change and I'm accepting the fact that it's unfair and unreasonable that I expected and hoped and tried to make him change...