Originally Posted by
ekb 
I was also wondering, would it be a bad or good idea to go to an aa meeting with him. Just so I can learn more about what he's dealing with. Or is that something just for him to have?
Going to open AA meetings are a great way to learn about things, for both us and the alcoholic. AA meetings are a great resource, as are talking to alcoholics in general. My first confidant with this whole disease was an alcoholic, and he helped me so much because I
knew he knew the alcoholic's side of the story, and that was really important to me at the time.
Going with him to AA, though? If there are other meetings you could attend that he does
not attend (or doesn't attend regularly), I'd recommend doing that instead. This way, you still learn, while he gets to keep his AA meeting as a place where he feels comfortable sharing anything he needs to share, without worrying about being judged by someone he knows "in real life."
Just my two cents.