Originally Posted by
worndown 
He gets caught more often than not. You'd think they'd (he'd) learn his lesson about lying to me............Wouldn'tYa?
I read a quote the other day that went something like this: "Until you are able to confront that which is ugly about what you do, you will learn nothing from your mistakes." And I thought to myself, OK, yeah, I'll go with that.
I've never been able to really get rid of any destructive behavior until I've totally admitted to myself that I'm doing something wrong to begin with... which is tough, and I'm not an addict. Based on my own experience and what I've read here, that seems to be even more difficult step for alcoholics to take than the general population.
That's part of why I lean away from confronting lies, generally. The person lying already knows that they're full of it, at some level-- they don't need me to point it out. They'll either learn honesty, or not, in their own time.