Originally Posted by
worndown 
Here's a question to go along with this.
If you choose NOT to confront the lying alcoholic - Do they just think they're getting away with all the lies they tell?
I ask because I'm constantly confronting my lying husband about his lies. He gets caught more often than not. You'd think they'd (he'd) learn his lesson about lying to me............Wouldn'tYa?
I worried about this for a long time. I was judge, jury, and executioner, and by gosh my AH was not going to get away with his lies if I could help it. Now I am learning about different and probably better questions for me: Why is it so important to me to prove that he is lying? What difference does it truly make to me if I show him I know he is lying? It's hard, but then butting heads over competing realities between a codie and an alcoholic is starting to seem a little more pointless than it used to!