Thank you.
It sure is a learning process- They called a little while ago saying that 'she' had enough of being at Dad's. I told them I was not available for a few hours- He texted back trying to engage me . I know that not being immediately available is okay and expecting me to be available at a moment's notice 20 hours before the end of the visitation is probably NOT ok- it is still hard to stick to my guns. For some strange reason.
Thank you for your example- it gives me hope.
I have an appointment for her to see a therapist (me too) to teach her healthy ways to deal with having an alcoholic play such a large role in her life (especially things I don't do very well). My mother was an addict and some things seem normal for me- and really they are not.