breec,
I don't know what religion you are referring to, and only someone of that faith can answer the questions you are asking. Al-Anon has taught me to find my own relationship with God. I can find it through whatever means I feel I need, whether it be religion, spirituality, or through my own heart.What no one can dictate is what kind of relationship I will have with God. If you choose to follow a religion, then you will find your answers there, but no one but you can decide if that is the right path for you. Twelve step programs don't answer religious questions. Those are outside issues that each person must deal with in their own way. The 12 steps only ask that you find a relationship with God, not what kind of relationship that is going to be. Look in you heart and ask yourself if this religion is right for you. If it is, then you have your answer. Hugs, Magic